Note About Getting Over The Fear
many as 41% of people have significant fear about giving a speech.
you are afraid, you are NOT alone.
are four ways to help yourself get over the fear:
UNDERSTAND THE TRUE DEFINITION OF PUBLIC SPEAKING:
Speaking is nothing more than having a conversation, with 2
or more people, about something you are passionate about . .
. while you just happen to be standing up!"
is not meant to be scary. It is only scary when you approach
it the wrong way - as a Performance. Go get a piece of paper
and write the word "SPEECH" on it. Now, draw a circle
around it. Now, put a diagonal line through that circle. Write
the word, "CONVERSATION" instead, in big letters.
That is what you are doing!!
FOCUS ON THEM, NOT YOU!! The best speakers do NOT focus
on themselves. They focus on the audience and getting the information
and the passion communicated to their audience. It's all about
THEM, not you. This actually helps take the pressure off of
you because, again, it is NOT a performance, you are sharing
something important FOR YOUR AUDIENCE.
IGNITE THE PASSION: Compare the giving of a "speech"
to what happens when they see friends at the mall after seeing
a fantastic movie or a rock concert and can't wait to share
the story of what they just experienced. THAT is the tone. Pure,
simple enthusiasm. If the enthusiasm is strong, it will largely
overcome the fear. Get them to get excited about the subject
they want to speak about and you are more than halfway home!
RELAXATION TECHNIQUES: As in life, breathing is VERY
helpful here. But it has to be deep, diaphramatic breathing.
Here are two exercises I use. They REALLY work to calm you down
AND to give you more energy.
The 1 - 4 - 2: Breathe in through your nose. Hold
four times that long. Exhale twice as long as the inhale.
So, if you start with 4 (a good, easy place to start), have
them hold for 16, then try to exhale for 8. Move up to 6/24/12,
then maybe even 10/40/20. The longer they hold the oxygen
in their lungs, the more it expands (the body will heat the
gas, oxygen, from 72 degrees to body temperature, 98.6. In
the process, the gas will expand and force the oxygen deeper
into one's body than the normal shallow breathing. Since oxygen,
remarkably, is a relaxant and a stimulant, after 3 or 4 "rounds"
you will feel both relaxed and energized, in the very most
natural way possible! (Don't do this while driving, though!!)
Alternate Nostril Breathing: This works in a different
and equally wonderful way. Simply put your thumb from your
right hand on your right nostril and breathe into your left
(for a decent sized breath). Then, after a little pause, release
the right nostril, put your middle finger on the left nostril
and exhale out of the right nostril. Continue, with breathing
in the right, out the left, in the left, out the right, for
at least 3 full cycles. While it will look and feel silly
this WILL calm you down as it balances the left and right
hemispheres of the brain, by making sure that they both have
ample, and equal oxygen.